10 sex common senses that couples must know
- Couples must know that pleasing yourself is as important as pleasing each other
Sometimes, women try their best to meet the needs of their partners for fear that they will not be satisfied. But sex is actually a give and take between both parties. If you only satisfy your partner, women will end up hating “that thing”. Women should be straightforward about their needs, and there is no need to feel guilty or embarrassed, because in fact, men like women who can enjoy sex. When a man finds that his actions can bring happiness to a woman, it can excite him more than any aphrodisiac.
- Don’t fake an orgasm
In order to please men, some women can fake an orgasm so realistically that men can’t tell the difference. But when they do this, they don’t think about the long-term consequences: if you don’t feel happy but pretend to have an orgasm, it will undoubtedly make the man repeat his wrong actions next time, because he mistakenly thinks that way can make women happy. A woman once had such an experience: her
Partner rubbed her vagina vigorously, trying to make her orgasm, but it made her very painful. She was too embarrassed to tell him that his method was too rough, so she pretended to reach orgasm so that he would stop. Unexpectedly, he used this rough method to rub her every time, which made her more and more painful. Finally, she could not bear it and had to tell him the truth. This was a great blow to the man, and the woman was very regretful. It would have been better if she had made it clear at the beginning.
- Don’t ignore other parts of the man’s body
Usually, men seem to be able to enter directly without any foreplay and enjoy it. In fact, this is their own misunderstanding. Touching and teasing can make men very excited, because when women do this, they are saying how much they like his body. Some women are shy and dare not act, but there is absolutely no man who doesn’t like women to do this, so just do it boldly and you will get visible results immediately. Touching and teasing are simple. Just keep sliding your fingers over his whole body, especially the inner thighs and nipples; sometimes touch his lower body as a tease. In addition, women can also use hair, tongue and eyelashes to increase the effect of teasing.
- Don’t be afraid of sexual fantasies
A woman admitted that every time she made love with her husband, she imagined that she was having sex with Leonardo. This imagination made her extremely excited, and her husband also got pleasure from her wild actions. She felt that it didn’t matter, anyway, she couldn’t really have an affair with Matt Damon. Experts say that sexual fantasies are healthy because they are not only a great motivation, but also what happens in the fantasy does not have to be true at all. For example, if a heterosexual man fantasizes about lesbian scenes, it does not mean that he is a homosexual; if a woman imagines having sex with a man other than her husband, it does not mean that she wants to have an affair. Sexual fantasies only show that the person has a rich imagination, and it can indeed stimulate sex.
- Learn to masturbate
Since men’s first ejaculation usually comes from masturbation, the proportion of women doing so is definitely not low. In fact, masturbation is a very effective way to learn, because after you understand your own body, you can guide your partner to do it in the most appropriate way when having sex with him. Another benefit of masturbation is that you can definitely reach orgasm.
- Don’t be rigid
If you make love in exactly the same way every night, even if you reach orgasm every time, it will still become boring in the end. This is because there is no expectation. According to a woman’s personal experience: as long as she is on top and rubs the man’s genitals with her hips in circles, she can reach orgasm. Therefore, they adopt this posture every time they make love, reach orgasm quickly and end it hastily, and the result is not satisfying at all. In fact, it is the old saying: the slower the food reaches the mouth, the more delicious it is. In other words, the slower you reach orgasm, the stronger the pleasure. When taking the most stimulating posture, as soon as you reach a level that is enough to bring excitement, you should change to other postures without waiting for orgasm. Doing so is not only to delay the timing of orgasm, but also to take the opportunity to explore the fun of other postures.
- Understand the other person’s body
We know that everyone is different, and the same is true in sex. If a woman has had sexual experience with other men before, she sometimes uses the previous method on her current partner, which is inappropriate. So, how do you know what the other person likes? This depends on careful observation. Of course, some people will automatically express their preferences with moans or shouts, but many people may be the type of silence is golden. At this time, you can listen to whether his breathing speeds up or he gasps; whether his pupils suddenly dilate; his chin sags; and the most obvious is that his penis becomes hard. It won’t take long to observe like this, and you can match his preferences perfectly.
- Love your body
Nine out of ten modern women think they are too fat. When they meet naked, this kind of self-deprecating view sometimes prevents two people from enjoying the fun they deserve. For example, people who think their breasts are too small may feel inferior when their partners touch their breasts, so they subconsciously avoid his hands or guide him to pay attention to other places. Over time, such signals will make their partners feel troubled, thus affecting sexual relations. One woman trained herself to think that although her breasts are not big, men are happy to go to bed with her, which proves that they don’t think there is anything wrong with her breasts. Just like that, she no longer resisted her male partner touching her breasts.
- Make good use of auxiliary equipment
Both sex toys and pornographic videotapes are good tools to add to the fun of sex, because they can provide many new ideas and increase the excitement. For some people, sex toys can even solve the problem of sexual disharmony. A woman who had difficulty reaching orgasm had to reach orgasm by hand after her partner withdrew, which embarrassed her partner. Later, she bought a pad with granules on the surface and a hole in the middle for the penis to penetrate, and placed it on her vagina. In this way, every time her partner inserted, the pad would rub her vagina, bringing her a pleasure she had never experienced before. You can buy such things through TV mail order or on the Internet to avoid unnecessary embarrassment.
- Spy on other people’s sex life
Although peeping is usually bad, sometimes if your own sex life is not happy, then peeping can also bring positive power. Because seeing other people’s happiness will stimulate yourself to find ways to change the status quo. After a girl broke up with her boyfriend, she couldn’t stand seeing her roommate bring a man home every night, so she decided to go out and find a new partner, and she succeeded in finding one. If she hadn’t been stimulated by her roommate, she might have locked herself up for a long time and complained to herself.
